In my sixteen years I have learned many things. The most important of these has been to let go. Henry Ellis once said; “The art of living lies within the fine mingling of letting go and holding on.
” I will admit I have not mastered the art of letting go, but with time, one day I will be able to let go . There are two parts of letting go: to forgive and to forget. Trying to let go of something that has not been forgiven is like trying to bake a cake without adding any flour.. You must truly forgive to move on.
Forgiveness is the flour added to the cake that provides structure. Once the fourand forgiven, then you can throw it away. Next, the final part of letting go is to forget. This part is when you actually throw the ball away, into a lake, behind your shoulder, or to a place where it is no longer visible. Forgetting requires no longer surrounding yourself with the issue.
It requires isolating the problem, and leaving it isolated.I have personally struggled with letting go, mostly in the form of confrontation with my father. Anything offensive my father said to me I would hold onto, no matter the sincerity of the apology.
I did not want to soften my cold heart, and I refused to respect him. Our relationship became almost nonexistent and most contact ended in a clash. Finally, one day, I wanted it to end. My father described our situation as this; a nasty bowl of soup. Any chef, in any eating place, from the diner down the street to a five star restaurant, would throw it away immediately. But for some reason I wanted to keep it. It was up to me to throw the soup away and make a new one. Initially, I wanted to save the soup somehow.
Finally I realized I could only add so many ingredients, and reheat it so many times. I let go of the hurt and mangled relationship and have been building a strong new one ever since.I believe that with time letting go will become easier. I believe no matter the physical, mental, or emotional trial or failure, letting go leads to progression. Forgive others for wrong-doings, and then forget; forgive yourself for failing, and then forget; and mostly remember let go completely of the memories and make new beautiful ones.