The Case In the recent years being single has become more and more socially acceptable. Now you can have a life separate from a significant other. According to Sam Roberts’s article in the New York Times (2006) the percentage of single people is greatly increasing. The article focuses on the lifestyle choices of either staying single or choosing a life with partners living unmarried and the social and economic effects it has on our lives.
Andrew Beveridge, a demographer from the Queens College of the City University of New York and a source in his article states that the sudden trend in being single is influenced by the economically secure women in the workforce who used to get married for the gain of things they could not achieve alone. These new abilities and opportunities have greatly changed this lifestyle leaving more people to stay single longer and more people cohabitating but no long term marital commitment. Another thing about the trend of being single longer is not just an American trend.
We have found in many countries that the trend of being single by choice is growing all over the world and the age of marriage is getting higher and higher. Bella De Paulo (2008) talks about the increasing independence of both men and women and the increase in spending more of people’s early adult years unmarried either living alone or with their parents. This article also points out this is happening in both developed countries like Australia, United Kingdom and the United states as well as in countries considered as developing such as Morocco, Malaysia and the Bahamas.
It also states that in the end we cannot make marriage the primary source of commitment anymore. Lastly, Tamala Edwards wrote an article for Time Magazine called “Flying Solo. ” This article talked about the success of a Houston, Texas woman taking a stand and making her own after the break up of a ten year relationship to find out that she loves being single more. This article goes into detail on the way that not only is the societal norm changing but it is effecting even our television making shows like Sex and the City where the main characters are strong, career focused single women.
Also women are becoming more independent being able to buy their own houses and traveling more. Diana Adile Kirschner a psychotherapist for the article states the “We’ve ended the spinster era. ” Now they are saying that being single by choice is more of an empowering statement rather than a frowned upon lifestyle. They also however talk about the regrets some people have about searching for Mr. Right thinking that they will live happily ever after and then looking back and realizing they had someone special right there in front of them. The Analysis When it comes to how all the articles worked together they all agree.
The information is very repetitive about the fact that this is something that is becoming more and more socially acceptable. Women are more powerful and independent and able to make a good living and get themselves what they want and be successful. Men are also happy doing what they do and being able to see the world and grow up most of their adulthood single. It is evident that there are regrets in both sexes and across all races but the overall idea is that being single is still ok and it is still a lifestyle you can do and get everything you want out of life.
Though when it comes to class the Psychology Today article shows different perspectives from all around the world younger and middle aged people sometimes ridiculed are still living the single life and living it happily. Most of the articles talk about single successful women with no children. They do not state the different socioeconomic statuses of the individuals leading us to assume these people mentioned are able to take care of themselves in any class. This is true for some classes but none of them really talk about different classes other than whether or not the person is overall successful in the lifestyle they have chosen.
Conclusions In the end what I learned is that being single for longer has both good and bad qualities. The good qualities are that a person who stays single longer is more in tune with who they are they get a chance to grow up and be themselves. These people get to see the world or enjoy what they believe to be the most beneficial to their lives. I also learned that the numbers of people who are staying single are growing. This is something that will probably never take the place of marriage but has brought light to the fact that marriage is not needed to be truly happy.
Also marriage is not for everyone and not everyone will be married before they are twenty five. The down side is there are regrets like with everything some people are to busy with their career they miss out on the childbearing years or even the years of being able to get a significant other that are their own age. It seems that women are the most open about these feelings but men are also feeling the loneliness and sometimes enjoying their freedom a little too much and missing out on something truly great. References
DePaulo, Bella. 2008. “Living Single Longer: It’s a Global Phenomenon. ” Psychology Today, November 1. Retrieved July 15, 2011 (http://www. psychologytoday. com/print/2226). Edwards, Tamala M. 2000. “Flying Solo. ” Time Pacific, August 20. Retrieved July 15, 2011 (http://www. time. com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,52954,00. html). Roberts, Sam. 2006. “To Be Married Means to Be Outnumbered. ” The New York Times, October 15. Retrieved July 15, 2011 (http://www. nytimes. com/2006/10/15/us/15census. html? pagewanted=print).