“True love doesn’t happen right away; it’s an ever-growing process. It develops after you’ve gone through many ups and downs, when you’ve suffered together, cried together, laughed together.” – Ricardo Montalban. Montalban is asserting how that in relationships a person sometimes has to go through a rough path to find true love. In Hurston’s novel, Their Eyes Were Watching God, Janie finds the love that she envisions as a youth when she ends up with Tea Cake but she had to go through overly dramatic relationships with Logan Killicks and Joe Starks first.             In the beginning,Janie marries Logan Killicks, but it wasn’t her choice. Killicks doesn’t give her a lot of freedom in the relationship and so she never falls in love with him. As she talks to Nanny about her feelings for Logan Killicks, Janie complains.” Cause you told me Ah mus gointer love him, and, and Ah don’t” (22). This illustrates how Janie recognizes that just because you marry someone doesn’t mean that you’ll end up falling in love with the person. “Janie’s first dream was dead, so she became a woman” (24). Even though she didn’t find love in the marriage, the relationship helped her develop more as a woman and realize that it takes time to get to know someone. Janie experiences this dramatic relationship because she didnt get alot of choice, witch makes her feel as if she didn’t feel any freedom. Although this was a traumatic relationship she learns that she has to chose her relationships. She needs choice and control to be happy. This need for control in her life leads the way to Jody Starks.                    At first Joe starks looks perfect, but this relationship also challenges Janie. Jody takes her voice away. At one point, Jody is making a speech as town Mayor. A member of the audience asks Janie to speak, ” The burst of applause was cut short by Joe taking the floor himself. Thank yuh fuh yo’ compliments, but mah wife don’t know nothin’  ’bout no speech-makin’. Ah never married her for nothing lak dat. She’s uh women and her place is in de home” (40). This demonstrates how he only married her just so he could put her at a position for his need. He doesn’t truly love janie and Janie doesn’t discover what type of person he really is until after they get married.”she got nothing from Jody except what money could buy, and she was giving away what she did not value” (72). This quote shows that Janie was trying to love Jody, but Jody didn’t love her. All that she got from him was a high social status in the town and wealth. Hurston uses their relationship to convey the message that in a relationship you’ve got to take time and get to know the person before you marry them. Although Janie and Jody didn’t really sync and deeply relate, She then learns that you’ve got to profoundly know someone before you find true love with them, and this leads her into finding perfect love with Tea Cake.               Even though many people argue that Janie never even found true love in any of her relationships, I disagree because when she finally met Tea Cake she free to make her own choices and she didn’t just run into marriage with him like her other relationships she took her time and actually got to know him. “Tea Cake and Janie gone hunting. Tea Cake and Janie gone fishing. Tea Cake and Janie gone to Orlando to the movies. Tea Cake making flower beds in Janie’s yard and seeding the garden for her. Chopping down that tree she never did like by the dining room window. All those signs of possession.Tea Cake in a borrowed car teaching Janie to drive. Tea Cake and Janie playing Checkers; playing coo-can; Playing Florida flip on the store porch all afternoon as if nobody else was there. Day after day and week after week.” (105). This displays how perfect they were together. The amount of time they spent with each other, how happy they were together every minute. Tea Cake spent all his time making her happy throughout their relationship. Janie never stopped loving him. “Tea Cake came prancing around her where she was and the song of the sigh flew out of the window and lit in the top of the pine trees. Tea Cake, with the sun for a shawl. Of course he isn’t dead. He could never be dead until she herself had finished feeling and thinking.” (183). This shows how much Janie really felt about Tea Cake. She believes that their love together will never be lost for as long as she lives.   Throughout this novel, Hurston is expressing the true meaning of love. Love cannot be arranged or bought. It is when you get  with someone  and you both understand each other deeply.